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Jacob’s Baby Naming
May 15, 2005
Laura and Roger Thompson, Clifton Park, NY
What We Did
Like our wedding (also officiated by Rabbi Alpern), we
wanted our baby naming ceremony to be unique to our
personal style and to include our families in the
ritual. Rabbi Alpern suggested that we ask different
family members to speak at the ceremony and we decided
we wanted them to take on the role of teachers—to talk
about something they felt was important for the baby to
learn or know. True to how the rabbi works, he
facilitated the ceremony to teach us how to share our
beliefs and feelings with each other. He also was a
storyteller, explaining the biblical significance of
Jacob’s name and presenting us with a Hebrew baby-naming
certificate inviting Jacob into the Jewish faith.
Surrounding us in our small house were our parents,
siblings, cousins and cousins’ children, an old friend,
dog, and cats. Mommy told the baby that he has a
wonderful father that he can always count on. Daddy took
the alphabet and for each letter taught the baby a
different lesson, some serious, some funny. For
instance, for the letter “A” he told the baby “A “is for
Appreciate. Appreciate what you have because no matter
how little you may think it is, somewhere in the world,
someone has less. For the letter “S”, he told him that
the Steelers are his favorite football team. Mommy’s
father sang a song he wrote about being Jacob. Daddy’s
brother also wrote a song about how the baby could
always count on his uncle to be there for him. Mommy’s
sister spoke about the importance of family, as did
Mommy’s cousin. Daddy’s mom talked about how proud she
was of her son and that her grandson was born on a day
that used to be sad for her (her mother had died that
day about 15 years ago), but now would be a happy day
for her. And finally, Daddy’s dad spoke about how it is
important to keep your word.
Why We Did It
We had gone to weddings, bris, christenings, and baby
naming ceremonies that were cookie cutter rituals: they
did not reflect the distinctive personalities and
beliefs of the individuals involved. After going through
years of fertility treatments to finally have our son,
his birth was an incredibly important milestone in our
lives. We did not think a cookie cutter ritual would
have adequately touched on our unique spiritual beliefs,
involved our families, nor would have enabled us to say
to the world how much we love our child.
We wanted to create our own ritual because that is how
we are going to engage our child in his spiritual
upbringing--taking pieces from different beliefs we have
and a variety of traditions to creating a unique
spiritual household. We will encourage exploring
different ideas and hearing what others have to teach,
rather than force one systematized religion on him. We
will also involve our son some religious rituals that
have been a part of our lives including Seders, Easter
dinner, Christmas, and perhaps even a bar mitzvah;
however, we are excited to plan them, with the help of
Rabbi Alpern, in our family way. As a couple we talk a
lot about what we believe in and what we want our child
to learn. We do not want to leave that responsibility
solely to others outside the family. We look at our baby
naming ceremony as another step in empowering us to take
the lead in teaching our own version of spirituality to
Jacob.
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